It’s taken so long
But today
Yes
Just today
I finally made peace…..
Peace with my life.
Peace with my choices.
Peace with my situation.
Peace with being alienated
From those I used to love….
And I’m okay.
I really am…..
It’s taken so long
But i feel that
Finally
I can breathe easier….
Today I feel a huge
Sense
Of
Relief….
I thought it would be painful
And it was
Very…
But now the doubts and
The questions
Are all over.
I’m a survivor
And I’ve been to hell
And
Back
Again.
But today I feel
So freaking free
And it feels awesome…..
And it’s weird….
Cos I’ve been free
Technically
For a while
But today…
It’s deeper freedom…..
Genuine…..
And I’m alright with it…..
Today I had my daughter’s
Bat Mitzva party
(a party when a girl turns 12)
And I knew I’d have to face
The people who hurt me
The people who broke me
The people who kidnapped my
Own daughter off me…..
I didn’t know how I’d face them….
But as a mum
There was no option.
I had to be there
All 2 1/2 hours of it.
And it was hellish
Walking in….
I was fighting my tears
Holding back tightly
Choking back the pain
Threatening to suffocate me……
Looking around
So many people
People I hadn’t seen in so long
People who caused me
So much heartache
People who made me consider
Giving up
Thinking life wasn’t worth living
When I was in so much distress…..
How I walked in is beyond me….
But I had to….
I’d planned how to deal with it
How i would cope with it
But walking in felt different
Harder than I ever imagined….
I didn’t think.
I blocked it out.
Switched by brain off
For a few moments
And did what i had to.
Braced
Cold
Shaky
Brave
Strong
Don’t cry
Don’t break
Don’t let anyone say
Anything
Don’t let them know
How broken you feel
How this is the last place
You want to be….
How different
You feel
Out of place
Worlds apart….
Lives apart….
It’s my old life
The one I left behind…..
It was so strange…..
The environment was odd
Girls only
Not used to that…..
It was pink and frilly
Every girl’s dream….
It was like a pretense
Fairytale land
Away from reality
The entertainment
Dancing
Food
Well organised….
A sister came over to me
I barely recognised her….
She had lost weight
And looked different….
Trying to be friendly
She said hi how are you
And my initial reaction was
Unsavoury
“How fucking DARE you ask that???
How the hell do you think I am???
You’re acting like her mum
When I’m her mum
And I hate you for the vile
False allegations you wrote about me
And gave to Court about me!!!”
Instead I kept my facial expression
Civil
Cold
Unmoved
And mumbled “fine”
And walked away.
I couldn’t pretend
We were ok
I wasn’t about to be nice to
People who hurt me so deeply….
I’m not hateful….
Or vengeful…..
I forgive people
Who cause me pain…..
But with them they stepped over
The invisible mark
So I’m totally done.
Forever.
Yes…
Forever…..
The next sister came over
Hi How are you
Have a hot dog
Bla bla
“No”
Walked away.
Again.
She was the worst one.
She took me to court
Stood in court
Against me
On the same side as my ex…..
Forgive her???
My arse.
Unforgivable.
Who takes their sister to court
For custody of their child????
Who makes vicious allegations
Against a sister
Knowing full well that were false….
And now she’s standing here
In front of me
Asking how I am….
Omg omg
What
The
Actual
Fuck!!!!
Third sister comes over.
She’s nothing to do with
What happened
But I feel uneasy.
I’m polite
Give her an air kiss
And ask why she came all the way
As she lives so far.
We talked all of 30 seconds
Perhaps.
I had nothing to say to her …
And I don’t trust her
Or any of them anymore……
How can I?
I know they discuss me
And whatever I do or say
Will be the topic of conversation
And so I keep quiet….
And sit in a corner
Taking pictures
Videos
Trying to focus
On my stunning daughter
And making sure she’s okay….
I felt so irrelevant….
Why was I even there??
They took over all the tasks
And preparations
And I just kept to myself.
I was texting a close friend
Telling him how broken I felt
And how I wanted to run away
And break down
And he was amazing…
We spoke and he stayed
On the phone with me
For a while
Till I felt a bit stronger….
At one point they were
Taking pictures
In a photo booth
Screaming
Having fun
Laughing
Jumping up and down
Being crazy
And as I walked past
They called me to join them.
I literally couldn’t believe it
Why would I want to be with
Haters
People who broke me
And I look …..
They are smiling
Thinking “she will come over
And it will all be okay and
Back to
Normal…..”
But that’s not what happened…..
I shook my head marginally
Not making eye contact……
And walked away
Not making a scene…..
Just quietly moving away…..
Maybe they will finally
Realise they have hurt me
Beyond repair…
And even if they ask for
Forgiveness
Which they never have done
I couldn’t grant it…..
At the end of the party
I saw my sisters chatting
Their backs to me
And a huge wave of
Realisation hit me
Hard……
All the months
All the time
All the tears
All the pain
They put me through…..
It was over….
I felt nothing for them…
No bond
For they had broken it….
And we were no longer
Siblings
Sisters
Those relationships are over…..
And although it should hurt
I just feel
Relief
And a huge sense of
CLOSURE…….
The maybes
The what ifs
The worries
It was all over…..
I’m a woman with
One brother now
And that’s it.
I used to have 9 siblings
Now I have only one….
And It’s okay…..
They can’t hurt me
Anymore
As they are strangers
To me now
And I am done….
So now yes tonight
I made peace
Finally
With the people
Who used to be
My family
As they are no longer
Entitled to call themselves
My family…..
Families don’t fuck
Each other over so
Painfully…..
They have lost the
Privilige of calling me
Their
Sister……
And I’m okay with it….
Genuinely…..
And I’m happy….
And relieved……
At peace….
This hellish chapter
Of my life
Is finally
Over
For good……
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