April 2016 was the last time I saw my niece. We weren’t allowed to talk to each other since April 2015 but we were both at an event and met there.
I’ll never forget the way both she and her older sister who were both young teenagers whispered to me when no one was looking that they would go to the bathroom and that I should follow a few minutes later.
I knew it would be a one off chance so I grabbed it with both hands. Looking around and making sure I wasn’t being followed I ran upstairs to the bathroom where both of my nieces were waiting for me.
I cannot begin to explain the emotions that went on during those next few minutes before we had to leave. They cried. I cried. They apologised for what was going on and promised they wished they were allowed to see me but had to listen to their parents
They hugged me tighter than I’ve ever hugged anyone knowing this may be the final time we met. The tears wouldn’t stop and I told them that I loved them and was the same person they always knew. I hadn’t changed who I was inside although I looked different. They knew I loved them. I hope they still know that.
I am fully aware of the rabbinic ruling given to their family making it very clear there was to be absolutely no contact ever again. And that stopped instantly. I tried to call and text and got ignored unti eventually I found out why.
I’m no longer angry with them. I understand how much weight the words of a Rabbi carry. I also know that they don’t know any different and for them having contact with me is categorically forbidden.
This niece is getting married tomorrow. I had no idea. Someone told me by mistake. I don’t think I was meant to find out. It hurts that I can’t be there to share in her special day…. And I have no way of contacting her.
I miss you… I love you… I wish I could be there tomorrow… I’m sorry your parents have cut me out your life….
My Unorthodox Life has just dropped on Netflix today. I’d definitely recommend you watch this as it will not only be fascinating and educational, it will also inspire you.
Julia Haart left the Ultra Orthodox Jewish Community a number of years ago and has become a successful CEO of a Model Agency. She gives her children the options to choose how they want to live their lives.
Having just come across this article I’m enraged. We can see that sadly because the Beth Din is made up of male Rabbis, they seem to only see things through the eyes of the husbands.
A woman who goes to the police for help because her husband is physically, emotionally, sexually or financially abusive shouldn’t be penalised.
Proving coercive control is incredibly difficult and to put another burden on the victim that if she (it’s usually the women but not always) goes to the courts about it she can be left chained to her estranged husband, without a Gett, forever. This is outrageous.
Saying you’re helping agunot (jewish women unable to be free of their husbands as they refuse to divorce their wives) and actually doing it is a different thing. What about the human rights of the victims? We need to stop protecting men who are abusers and begin thinking of how to help the women trapped and chained to their their husbands.
At the root of all of this is the terrible sexism and misogyny that exists in the Beth Din. The Chief Rabbi has said he will intervene and try to resolve this issue. I hope he does. This is unacceptable and has to be sorted out. We can’t have women chained for decades to their husbands. And we can’t allow women to be scared to go for help knowing if she does she won’t get her Gett.
An Israeli Knesset member has called for the killing of couples involved in mixed marriages during a speech in parliament.
Yitzhak Pindrus is a member of the United Torah Judaism, an ultra-Orthodox party that believes in a homogenous Jewish state and society.
He called for the murder of “people who contribute to miscegenation”, invoking a Biblical story about the murder of a Jewish man and non-Jewish woman while they were making love by lancing a spear through their engaged sexual organs.
“No one was injured, and no weapons were displayed, according to the witnesses, but community members were terrified.
“There were kids all over, it was traumatizing,” an unnamed witness said.”
Do you hear the irony? No one was injured and there were no weapons. Kids terrified and traumatised. Remind you of anything at all?
Read the end of the article where it states how many Palestinians have been killed by the Israeli Army in the last couple of weeks or so. 60 babies and children were killed.
I asked a friend how he can still justify people who have done this. His answer was “they were in the wrong place at the wrong time”. It seems being in bed asleep in your own home counts as wrong place wrong time.
The Israeli Government confirmed the bomb had missed the target and hit that building killing dozens of innocent people. And you’re still defending this?
You know what real trauma is? A little girl pulled out of the rubble of a building bombed by the Israelis in which her mother and all her siblings were killed. The only other survivor was her father. She hasn’t said a word since being pulled out of the rubble of the bombed building. Her eyes are wide open and terrified. But not a sound comes out.
Of course it’s not acceptable to harass anyone or to yell antisemitic remarks. But please can we put things into perspective here. Having a car damaged and getting the police to take fingerprints of it to arrest the person who did it. I mean, seriously??
I still cannot get my head round the countless people who I know have a kind heart and so much compassion and yet when it comes to the subject of the Palestinians all this goes away. Someone make it make sense!
I present to you the Bais Din that harbors Meir Kin and other Get refusers. Do we trust rabbanim that blackmail and sexually coerce women instead of trying to help them get a Get?
🛑 Meir Kin, I know you are reading this. You can no longer hide behind your false frumkeit and false Bais Din. Admit that your one goal is to control and take vengeance on Lonna who just wants her freedom. It’s been 17 years. You’re already remarried.
I am warning you Meir. We have a lot more dirt on you and Rabbi Gestetner’s Bais Din. Do what’s right and just free Lonna already. You can go back to a private life!
🛑 Rabbi Gestetner’s Bais Din, we will not stand for this perversion of Torah.
This Sunday, April 25th at 8:30pm, let’s join together and rally outside this “Bais Din” located at 7 Mosier Court, Spring Valley, NY. No longer will we be silent as our Bnos Yisroel are tortured and abused. We need to draw a line in the sand right here and right now.