Not all of us are aware that when we warn our children not to talk to strangers and not to get into cars of people you don’t know… the statistics show that the person most likely to abuse a child is someone close to them, like a parent, teacher or older relative.
These are the predators we need to protect our children from… as well as the “boogie man down the alleyway”. Remember that women sexually abuse too. Leaving a child with a female doesn’t necessarily mean they’re automatically safe from sexual abuse.
“Any child is at risk of being sexual abused. It’s important to remember that both boys and girls can be sexually abused.
Most children who’ve been sexual abused were abused by someone they know. This could be a family member, a friend or someone who has targeted them – like a teacher or sports coach.”
“If a child reveals abuse If a child talks to you about sexual abuse it’s important to:
listen carefully to what they’re saying let them know they’ve done the right thing by telling you tell them it’s not their fault say you’ll take them seriously don’t confront the alleged abuser explain what you’ll do next report what the child has told you as soon as possible.”
Subject – Logan Dorn harassing teenage girls on the beach for – shock horror 🙄 – wearing bikinis!
If this dude didn’t want the 9 and 6 year olds boys to see women – actually teenage girls – in bikinis, he shouldn’t have taken them to the beach. Problem solved.
Once again we have a man trying to tell young girls how to dress to suit HIM. Move away man!! It’s not that hard to do.
The condescending attitude towards the group of girls is awful. He’s so patronising and trying to preach to them to explain why they’re wearing bikinis on the beach!!! It’s a freaking beach!!!!
The last 15 seconds of this story is what made me laugh. He thought he could harass these girls and get away with it. Nope! Social media is savage and after the video went viral people went for him to get his name and place of work! And yup! You guessed it!! He’s got fired.
Well done to Mighty Hand Construction in Colorado who have done the right thing by firing a man harassing girls. I wish more companies did this.
I’m still baffled why adult men think that going up to a group of girls and asking them why they’re wearing bikinis is acceptable??? And then talking about their bodies! Dude. Wow.
Oh wow 😭 seriously Jack Peterson this is disgusting. I’m going to assume he’s doing this for attention.
Wanting women to have Human Rights taken away from them shows an insane mind 🙄😡 “woman are lower than men. Women should be submissive to men. Women shouldn’t be allowed to vote. They should stay home. Shouldn’t be allowed in the workplace etc…”
So let me get this straight.
Jack, actively chose to be in a gay relationship and is now blaming women?
No one forced him into a his relationship he chose it he needs to face facts. He really needs help because he is delusional.
Both genders have their issues. Both have said issues because of their gender. If u can’t admit that your so far biased it’s sad.
Be proud of who you are Jack!! And welcome to the LGBTQ 🏳️🌈 community 😳
Just finished listening to the first podcast on Plathville and I appreciate you mentioning that there was another podcaster Kate Casey who interviewed them both.
I found it so insightful and so so sad because there’s always someone who is gonna be hurt whatever they do…
One thing that did jump out at me was that they mentioned that Kim – the mum – doesn’t do any housework and the kids pretty much do everything themselves. I think the phrase they used was “we brought ourselves and our siblings up on our own”.
Then I watched the second episode and this little clip just broke my heart. You can see the mum playing a harp while her daughters are hoovering and washing up and doing all the housework. And Lydia is praying. In the closet. This little clip of 27 seconds summed it up for me.
I know she’s trying to portray herself as a good mother who is totally devoted to her kids. Yet Ethan said that it was his dad who was available to them as kids and she never was. So many things make sense now.
As a survivor of a religious cult I always find these episodes triggering. However when I see how the older children are able to leave and move away from that brainwashed mentality it makes me genuinely happy for them.
Obviously I don’t know what happens with Ethan and Olivia but wow… how sad does Ethan look all the time…. I wonder if it’s depression and or something else going on? Heartbreaking to see such pain and despair in his eyes…
Anyone else understand what I mean or is it just me who sees these things??
April 2016 was the last time I saw my niece. We weren’t allowed to talk to each other since April 2015 but we were both at an event and met there.
I’ll never forget the way both she and her older sister who were both young teenagers whispered to me when no one was looking that they would go to the bathroom and that I should follow a few minutes later.
I knew it would be a one off chance so I grabbed it with both hands. Looking around and making sure I wasn’t being followed I ran upstairs to the bathroom where both of my nieces were waiting for me.
I cannot begin to explain the emotions that went on during those next few minutes before we had to leave. They cried. I cried. They apologised for what was going on and promised they wished they were allowed to see me but had to listen to their parents
They hugged me tighter than I’ve ever hugged anyone knowing this may be the final time we met. The tears wouldn’t stop and I told them that I loved them and was the same person they always knew. I hadn’t changed who I was inside although I looked different. They knew I loved them. I hope they still know that.
I am fully aware of the rabbinic ruling given to their family making it very clear there was to be absolutely no contact ever again. And that stopped instantly. I tried to call and text and got ignored unti eventually I found out why.
I’m no longer angry with them. I understand how much weight the words of a Rabbi carry. I also know that they don’t know any different and for them having contact with me is categorically forbidden.
This niece is getting married tomorrow. I had no idea. Someone told me by mistake. I don’t think I was meant to find out. It hurts that I can’t be there to share in her special day…. And I have no way of contacting her.
I miss you… I love you… I wish I could be there tomorrow… I’m sorry your parents have cut me out your life….
No visible symptoms, no runny nose, just a head full of darkness. No fever or rash, no fractures or sprains, just a longing for something unable to explain…
THE ONLY THING MORE EXHAUSTING THAN HAVING A MENTAL ILLNESS IS PRETENDING LIKE YOU DON’T.
MY ONLY RELIEF IS SLEEP. WHEN I AM ASLEEP, I AM NOT SAD, I AM NOT ANGRY, I AM NOT LONELY, I AM NOTHING.
It’s okay to not be perfect. It’s okay to make mistakes. It’s okay to do something that you hadn’t done, because if we don’t do those things we never grow.
IT’S OKAY TO FEEL UNSTABLE. IT’S OKAY TO DISASSOCIATE. IT’S OKAY TO HIDE FROM THE WORLD. IT’S OKAY TO NEED HELP. IT’S OKAY NOT TO BE OKAY. YOUR MENTAL ILLNESS IS NOT A PERSONAL FAILURE.
“Thoughts could leave scars deeper than almost anything else.”
People with mental health problems are almost never dangerous. In fact, they are more likely to be the victims than the perpetrators. At the same time, mental illness has been the common denominator in one act of mass violence after another.
I felt held hostage by her illness and by the backward mental health system that once again was incapable of helping our family in crisis.
I wish people could understand that the brain is the most important organ of our body. Just because you can’t see mental illness like you could see a broken bone, doesn’t mean it’s not as detrimental or devastating to a family or an individual.
Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is More COMMOn and also More hard to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal Mental pain increases the burden: it is easier to say “My tooth is aching” than to say “My heart is broken.”
“I’m fine, I’m just tired”
My depression is setting in but I don’t want to bother you with it.
MAYBE IT’S TIME TO GIVE UP. MY MENTAL ISSUES HAVE WORN ME DOWN TO NOTHING. I CAN’T CONTROL THE PTSD.
NO ONE UNDERSTANDS WHAT I TRY TO TELL THEM. I FEEL LIKE A BURDEN WITH NO END IN SIGHT…
Having just come across this article I’m enraged. We can see that sadly because the Beth Din is made up of male Rabbis, they seem to only see things through the eyes of the husbands.
A woman who goes to the police for help because her husband is physically, emotionally, sexually or financially abusive shouldn’t be penalised.
Proving coercive control is incredibly difficult and to put another burden on the victim that if she (it’s usually the women but not always) goes to the courts about it she can be left chained to her estranged husband, without a Gett, forever. This is outrageous.
Saying you’re helping agunot (jewish women unable to be free of their husbands as they refuse to divorce their wives) and actually doing it is a different thing. What about the human rights of the victims? We need to stop protecting men who are abusers and begin thinking of how to help the women trapped and chained to their their husbands.
At the root of all of this is the terrible sexism and misogyny that exists in the Beth Din. The Chief Rabbi has said he will intervene and try to resolve this issue. I hope he does. This is unacceptable and has to be sorted out. We can’t have women chained for decades to their husbands. And we can’t allow women to be scared to go for help knowing if she does she won’t get her Gett.
An Israeli Knesset member has called for the killing of couples involved in mixed marriages during a speech in parliament.
Yitzhak Pindrus is a member of the United Torah Judaism, an ultra-Orthodox party that believes in a homogenous Jewish state and society.
He called for the murder of “people who contribute to miscegenation”, invoking a Biblical story about the murder of a Jewish man and non-Jewish woman while they were making love by lancing a spear through their engaged sexual organs.
I’ve just finished listening to a podcast for the second part of The Single Life, Tell All which airs on Discovery +
I was very moved by what the guys said at the end about Liz and how to support someone you know who may be in the kind of abusive relationship it seems she’s in with Ed.
They made a comment about not blaming or questioning why someone has stayed so long or keeps going back etc. It really touched me and I wanted to share why.
As a survivor of domestic abuse, aka Intimate Partner Violence, with the father of my kids whom I was married to for 17 years, I have these kind of questions asked of me all the time. I never told anyone what had been going on all those years so when it came out and he was arrested I felt like I was made to defend myself.
“Why did you stay so long” “Why didn’t you tell anyone” “Why didn’t you leave the first time you felt abused” “I understand a year or two. But 17??” “Why, why, why, why…..”
What people who haven’t experienced this personally or seen it close up don’t realise is the grooming, control, manipulation, ostracising you from everyone who cares about you, coercion etc etc that happens gradually over time. And if you are young, I was just 19 and he was older at 27, you don’t necessarily know what red flags are or what the warning signs are.
And once you are aware about what is happening you may have kids, you may have been told “I love you so much, you don’t need to learn to drive. I’ll take you anywhere you need” thereby ensuring you’re trapped if you want to leave quickly or get help.
The abuser may have disabled your phone or locked doors to trap you inside. They may have told you countless times how “you’re lucky I’m with you. No other man would want to be with a fat, ugly disgusting person” etc. You’re made to feel grateful that they’re with you because after all no one else would want to be. Or at least that’s what you’re made to believe.
I always feel hurt and defensive when I’m asked why I didn’t get out earlier and other things like that. I realise that I cannot explain why in a matter of a text or a short conversation. If someone asks then they just don’t get it. And I don’t need to educate everyone. There’s enough information online to educate yourself rather than put the onus onto the victim or survivor.
To me it feels like I’m being asked how stupid can you be that you allowed it to go on for so long…. how much of an idiot can you be not to have left after the first couple of times you were abused… and I know I’m not stupid. I was simply groomed and isolated, had my money taken etc.
Even money I got from doing private lessons would have to be hidden in a drawer away from him. But sadly when I was in hospital for years on and off for months at a time, he found the money I saved to leave him and stole it. He proudly told me about it as I was hooked up to machines in hospital unable to move. That’s how vile these people can be.
So please, please don’t blame the victim and make them justify why they stayed with their abuser for a certain amount of time or why they keep going back. The mental abuse and the feeling of needing to be with them because you’ve been brainwashed to believe you can’t live without them is so difficult to comprehend.
Just be a support. Tell them you’re there when they are ready to leave. Ask what it is that might be keeping them, such as financial issues, and see if you’re able to help. Make sure they know they are not alone and you’re not judging them and they’re done nothing wrong other than to fall for the wrong person. Give them contact information for charities or shelters that can help them when they’re ready.
I hope this helps someone understand more about people they care about. Of course this post is my own experience only but it’s an insight into how it might be for someone you care and worry about.