Happy Father’s Day – is it Really Happy? Painful? My Story 🥺

Now that Father’s Day is over I wanted to send love and peace to all of us who either haven’t got a father, who have lost their dad, whose father was never around and to those of us who will never receive a phone call from their dad.

My father expects his kids to do the calling and always said “they know where to find me”. I can’t understand that mentality.

It’s been years since we last spoke or saw each other and unfortunately it’s been a rocky ride from day one. I’d love to say he’s been the best dad – the way so many of you are able to – but with so many kids, so little time and money, he wasn’t emotionally available to me. And he never protected us. That hurts.

Father’s Day comes and goes, year in and year out and nothing changes. And I doubt it ever will.… unless I make the initial contact and keep doing that. But don’t we all just want our parents to contact us from time to time? Maybe it’s just me.

Happy Father’s Day to all those dads who are there for your kids and who you love unconditionally. For me it was very much conditional. Once I left their way of life I was an outcast and stopped being part of the family.

Weddings happen.
Bar mitzvah’s come and go.
Babies are born.
Relatives get engaged.
A child is very unwell.

And I know nothing about any of this unless its told to me by someone who happens to mention it and expects me to know. It’s always awkward.

My dad is having a big 70th birthday event in a few days and I knew nothing about it. I only found out when someone asked me for a phone number of a relative to invite them to the party. No consideration for how that would make me feel.

I don’t know why I expect anything else. It’s been like this for years. It’s just tough sometimes… the only photo I have of the two of us and my mother is this one which was taken when I was just 19 and getting married… “You’re welcome to her” he quipped as the wedding ended.

So. Yup. It’s been a hell of a ride for decades and I’m off the train. My number has never changed. ”He knows where to find me”. But he never will. And I’ve accepted it.

(Faces blurred as this is a public post).

#HappyFathersDay #fathersday #fatherhood #parenting #abuse #children #mentalhealth #cult #wedding #marriage #divorce #unconditionallove #sad #disappointed

NETFLIX – “KEEP SWEET PRAY AND OBEY”

Trigger Warning ⚠️

Warren Jeffs is a pedophile.
Warren Jeffs is an evil monster.
The things he subjected not just the women and young girls to but also to the men is horrific to say the least.

One of the main women on the FLDS documentary said this at the end of part 4. I had to stop, rewind, listen again. And again. And then I felt a pull to write it down and share here.

“Those of us that are coming from the fallout of the FLDS at some point we have to move forward. The next generation depends upon it. But it’s very complicated.

So many of us are still functioning under the shadow of the past. I thought I was further along than I was. And then you have these moments as an adult when you think I know nothing. I know nothing”.

What a powerful and relatable idea. We don’t always recognise that when those of us who leave cults, extreme religions or closed communities, it takes time to heal.

We never know what the trigger is and how it will manifest itself. This documentary needs to be shown to everyone. It describes how people can be brainwashed to believe anything at all when done b the worst manipulator and abuser.

It also makes us realise the concept of coercion and underage brides being r*ped by older men sometimes in front of other women as if it’s some godly act.

Yet even after he’s been in jail for over 10 years he has strong supporters who seem to be living with the notion that he’s a martyr and they will do anything for their “prophet”.

To be clear, this is not about religion. It’s about fundamentalists, radical, and extreme cults.

#mentalhealth #Netflix #keepsweetprayandobey #documentary #FLDS #WarrenJeffs #fraud #fake

Keep Sweet: Pray and Obey – New Netflix 4 Part Documentary Into Warren Jeffs and the FLDS Church

Trigger Warning ⚠️ child abuse, underage marriage, control, etc.

This week, a new true crime has dropped on Netflix called Keep Sweet: Pray and Obey. It tells the harrowing true story of a polygamous cult, and viewers of the show are calling it the most traumatising thing they have ever watched.

This Netflix series explores the secretive and chilling polygamous cult of the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints (FLDS)
Keep Sweet: Pray and Obey focuses on a US polygamous cult led by Warren Jeffs, who to followers was the leader or “prophet” of the group.

This is the Netflix trailer so you get an idea what it’s about before you watch it as it’s traumatic viewing…

The group saw hundreds of women and children abused on a daily basis. In 2011, Warren Jeffs was convicted in Texas of two counts of sexual assault of a child. He was sentenced to life in prison for sexually assaulting a a 12-year-old girl, and 20 years for sexually assaulting a 15-year-old girl.

Warren Jeffs was previously convicted in Utah on two counts of being an accomplice to rape in 2007, but that conviction was overturned by the Utah Supreme Court in 2010.

According to a former US Attorney Special Prosecutor who participated in the Netflix documentary, evidence during the sentence phase of the trial reflected that Jeffs was “involved in conducting the marriages of 67 underage girls to FLDS men”, and that he “had himself 78 wives – 24 of those wives were underage.”

Jeffs is a monster who’s presently serving life in prison for the sexual assault of two young girls, ages 12 and 15, who at the time of his crimes were both his wives.

Dretzin’s four-part affair is a history lesson about the modern FLDS movement, which was spearheaded by Jeffs’ father, Rulon, the original prophet, who even in his eighties was continuing to marry as many young women as he could get his wrinkled hands on, including Rebecca Wall, who speaks in detail about the nightmare of having to share a house—and bed—with this elderly creep.

From there, it was only a short leap into systemic pedophilia. Let that sink in.

Keep Sweet: Pray and Obey is a snapshot of the fear, intimidation, broken families, and sinister misconduct begat by this situation.

Thankfully, director Dretzin crafts her portrait with virtually no dramatic recreations, instead relying on a haunting collection of archival photos, home videos, courtroom footage, and recorded evidence to convey the unnerving strangeness of FLDS life, in which women dressed (as one speaker pointedly puts it) like Laura Ingalls, and men preached in holier-than-thou tones that belied their baser designs.

That material culminates with clandestine photographs and audio tapes made by Jeffs of his sexual encounters with his victims, which are so predictably disgusting that it’s no surprise they landed him behind bars, where he continues to create “revelations” that are disseminated to his followers.

This 4 part documentary is chilling, possibly triggering, shocking, disturbing, and a real eye opener to those who know little or nothing about the FLDS cult, an offshoot of Mormonism. Watch with care 🖤

To be clear, this isn’t about religion. It’s about cults, brainwashing, controlling people, underage brides, sexual abuse and r*pe of minors, forced marriage, etc.

#mentalhealth #mormon #keepsweetprayandobey #WarrenJeffs #underage #girls #abuse #survivor #Crime #jail #preach #priest #RulonJeffs #Netflix #trauma #warning #Danger #cult #police #prison

DAILY MAIL – SARAH VINE: It’s Amber Heard HERSELF who has proved a setback for women

“Real domestic abuse victims struggle, sometimes for years, to have their voices heard. They suffer at the hands of their aggressors, often trapped in toxic situations through lack of money, opportunities or the constraints of their culture.”

“For Heard to jump on the #MeToo bandwagon under false pretences feels like the ultimate betrayal, as did the fact that she lied about donating the proceeds of her divorce settlement to charity.”

“She gives all women a bad name, and in many ways undoes years of work building up credibility for victims of domestic violence. She claimed in her statement that the verdict was a ‘setback’ for women, but that’s not true: she is the one who has set back the cause for women. That, I’m afraid, is the hard truth she must now accept.”

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/debate/article-10885173/SARAH-VINE-Amber-Heard-proved-setback-women.html

This article is spot on. Thank you Sarah Vine for speaking the truth

Amber is now facing what Johnny had to live with
for 6 years. In his case, it was unjustified. Amber lied and defamed him for publicity to bolster her career but, her plan backfired.

A perfect way of describing what most Domestic Abuse survivors feel about this case…

It’s not issue of gender.
It was victory of good over evil.
If you lie you have to pay for your lies.

Power comes from the act of abuse not from gender, race, age, position, wealth or fame.

Amber abused Johnny. Amber had power over Johnny.

Isn’t it time we buried the David & Goliath trope once and for all??

Finally! A journalist making sense! Sarah Vine watched the trial and reported truthfully! No gas lighting, no white knuckling criteria of what you need to be to be a victim, no blind eye to the fact that women can be awful, too. Imagine that. THANK YOU, SARAH.

#johnnydepp #amberheard #metoo #aclu #rally #domesticabuse

Amber Heard at the #MeToo Protest. You don’t Speak For Survivors of Domestic Abuse 🥺

Please.
Stop
Just
Freaking
Stop.

You don’t speak for me.
You don’t speak for victims.
You are not a survivor of domestic abuse.
You have the nerve to stand and talk to survivors as if you are one of us when you’re a perpetrator.
Stand down.
Walk away.

You don’t deserve this platform.
Shame on the people who invited her to speak at a #MeToo rally when she was the abuser.
Those who say it’s a step back for women I say no! This is a step forward for survivors and the world finally seeing that men can also be victims of abuse.

It makes me livid seeing her talk about her fake abuse.
It enrages me to think that the women protesting and cheering were actually watching a perpetrator of abuse switch the story around.

And just like her, I won’t be mentioning her name. We all know who I’m referring to. But if I don’t say her name it could be anyone. No?!?

#women #JohnnyDepp #AmberHeard #domesticviolenceawareness #mentalhealth #survivor #shhhh #rhianna #hollywood #drinks #drugsafety #violent #justiceforjohnny

Tell the World Johnny….

Heard openly mocked Depp for being a “victim of abuse”

Jurors also heard a recording of Heard allegedly pressuring Depp to come forward as a “victim of domestic violence” and suggesting he wouldn’t be believed.

“Tell the world, Johnny, tell them, Johnny Depp, I, Johnny Depp, a man, I’m a victim too of domestic violence,” Heard says, before going on to challenge him to “see how many people believe or side with you.”

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10878899/ACLU-shares-blame-defaming-Johnny-Depp-legal-scholar-argues.html

Jurors were played recordings of fights, including one in which Heard admitted to “hitting” Depp.

“You didn’t get punched. You got hit. I’m sorry I hit you like this, but I did not punch you. I did not fucking deck you. I fucking was hitting you.”

Heard later apologized.

Heard testified that Depp got violent during their honeymoon in 2015, after an argument over his drinking.

“He would slam me up against the wall,” she said. She said she feared Depp would kill her.

A trip to Australia, where Depp was filming the fifth installment of the Pirates of the Caribbean movie franchise, featured prominently in the trial. Depp claimed his wife threw a vodka bottle at him, severing the top of his middle right finger. Heard claimed Depp sexually assaulted her with a whiskey bottle.

“It [was] so easy for him to throw me around,” Heard testified. Depp, she said, shoved a liquor bottle “inside of me over and over again” and “said he would kill me”.

If this actually happened she would have been in hospital. The stories she’s come out with are ludicrous and lacked credibility in my personal opinion.

For everyone saying that “Now that a jury has sided with Johnny Depp, advocates say the verdict could have a chilling effect on other survivors looking to speak out against their abusers.” I say this.

Stop speaking on behalf of women like myself who have been abused while in a relationship with my ex husband.I support Johnny Depp.

He was the victim. Women always fight to be believed. This will set us back because we will be asked if we are like Amber Heard. Heard and the ACLU demonised Depp without knowing any facts. Shameful.

On a Date – Accept Boundaries Set! Don’t Push and Make Someone Feel Uncomfortable and Unsafe…

Story time! I was on a date with a guy about 3 years ago who knew that the only superficial thing that was important to me is height because I’m tall. He lied and said he was taller than he actually was.

When we met I was taller than him and I was more annoyed that he lied to me than the fact that he was 5”6! We had a nice chat although I knew there was no way I was going to see him again.

He randomly asked how I felt about kissing on a first date and I said no but if I am into the person then on a second date I’d be in. I also reiterated that I was disappointed I had been lied to. We left the bar and I headed to my car.

Suddenly he said hold on! Is the first date inside the bar and the second one here outside? If it’s the second one I want to kiss you! I was like wow wtf dude!! I said again about the height lying thing.

He then went onto the sidewalk as I stood on the road about to get in my car and he said “I’m taller than you now and it’s like a second date, so can we kiss”!!

I made it clear that while he’s a nice person I’m just not feeling it and I wished him all the best but I wouldn’t meet again. He asked if I was dating someone else and I said no I don’t date more than one person at a time. He just couldn’t accept what I was saying.

He walked off. I sped home! The next morning my phone rang and he said “I’ve been thinking about our date last night and I don’t think it’s going to work out so I don’t want to meet up again”!!!

Some people feel the need to be the one to end a relationship or just a dating situation even though I’d already said the exact same thing the night before!! I just said uh-huh ok I already said this but yeah cool. And I hung up.

To be honest it was about the lying and the boundary crossing. When someone says they don’t want or don’t like or can’t go etc let them have their boundaries! Don’t force yourself onto anyone.

#dating #firstdate #tall #London #mentalhealth #lies #boundaries #kiss #height #date #car

RIP Kevin Samuels, the Godfather of all the Red-Pill, Incels, and Alfa/Beta nonsense!

Whether someone is dead or alive we cannot just ignore the things they did that hurt people. He was known for supporting men who didn’t like women and expected the prettiest woman while they had almost nothing to offer.

He particularly had a thing for verbally attacking black women. This was a constant theme. They would ask for advice and he would immediately ask their height, weight, rated their appearance out of 10, earnings etc. And whatever they said he put a negative twist to it.

He did decent men a disservice and women became the focus of mens’ anger when they thought they deserved a certain kind of woman.

This video is an example of what I mean although there’s a lot more online on his YouTube page.

If putting women down was his specialty then he did it well. I wish he wouldn’t have had the chance to be so awful about women.

#KevinSamuels #incel #men #women

Amber Heard has set Women back decades with her very serious allegations of abuse against Johnny Depp

Many domestic abuse survivors will be watching in horror knowing that she’s set us back decades. I am a survivor of DA when I was married for 17 years. I fought to get my voice heard and now this has happened, it will be even harder to be believed… so disappointed and painful.

I could never sit so close to my abuser and speak like that. I’d be shaking and crying. I asked for a curtain to be pulled around. I didn’t want to have to speak when he was right there. So much of what she says and does makes no sense.

#JohnnyDepp #AmberHeard #domesticabuse

Johnny Depp & Amber Heard – Domestic Violence Allegations

Trigger Warning ⚠️ Domestic Violence, Amber Heard, Johnny Depp.

“Believe women”
“MeToo”
“Believe survivors”
“Start believing women”.

Sound familiar? This is what we are all told to think and in the majority of cases this will be true. However, Miss Heard has set women back a long time because now people will say “women can’t be believed. See what she did to Johnny Depp”!

And they would be right. She has unknowingly created huge problems for survivors of domestic abuse. It’s hard enough to be believed, but now it’s going to be way harder.

The circus currently going on in a court in America is unbelievable. There was a huge number of people who assumed Amber Heard was innocent, and they must be feeling so confused.

A close family member married a woman back around 2012. Within two days she completely changed and went from being sweet and kind to a violent woman.

The man in question is over 6” and well built as he spends a lot of time in the gym. The woman, his new wife, was about 5”5 and a slim build. He knew that if he retaliated he would automatically be considered the perpetrator.

She began to beat him for the smallest reason she could find. She also contacted his place of employment and told his boss that HE was being violent to her! He lost his job immediately as he was working with children.

In frustration and at his wits end, he went to his local police station to get help. He told the officer on duty what was going on.

When he told me how this police officer mocked him… laughed at the idea that a man could be being abused… I was livid. He was so ashamed and embarrassed that he simply left and went back to this abuser.

She immediately asked why he was late from work and somehow it came out that he had been to get help. I had a sinking feeling I knew where this was going.

Within a few minutes the police turned up at their apartment and immediately arrested HIM for Domestic Violence. He was handcuffed and taken to the Police Station where he was interrogated relentlessly and was made to feel like he was the abuser as opposed to the victim.

They weren’t listening. His voice.. his story… that didn’t matter. They kept him there for a short time and when he was allowed out he was was served paperwork which was a Non Molestation Order which didn’t have an expiration date. It would be in place for the rest of his life.

Men can be victims too.
Women can be perpetrators.
Amber Heard is a disgrace.
Johnny Depp is a victim of DV.

#JohnnyDepp #AmberHeard #MeToo #survivor #domesticabuse #believe #bekind #mentalhealth #police @MetropolitanPolice #gym #victim