My Thoughts on Plathville – Season 3 episode 1 & 2

TW – Plathville and apparent parental neglect

Just finished listening to the first podcast on Plathville and I appreciate you mentioning that there was another podcaster Kate Casey who interviewed them both.

I found it so insightful and so so sad because there’s always someone who is gonna be hurt whatever they do…

One thing that did jump out at me was that they mentioned that Kim – the mum – doesn’t do any housework and the kids pretty much do everything themselves. I think the phrase they used was “we brought ourselves and our siblings up on our own”.

Then I watched the second episode and this little clip just broke my heart. You can see the mum playing a harp while her daughters are hoovering and washing up and doing all the housework. And Lydia is praying. In the closet. This little clip of 27 seconds summed it up for me.

I know she’s trying to portray herself as a good mother who is totally devoted to her kids. Yet Ethan said that it was his dad who was available to them as kids and she never was. So many things make sense now.

As a survivor of a religious cult I always find these episodes triggering. However when I see how the older children are able to leave and move away from that brainwashed mentality it makes me genuinely happy for them.

Obviously I don’t know what happens with Ethan and Olivia but wow… how sad does Ethan look all the time…. I wonder if it’s depression and or something else going on? Heartbreaking to see such pain and despair in his eyes…

Anyone else understand what I mean or is it just me who sees these things??

#parentalalienation #family #Plathville #Ethan #cult #religion #escape #neglect #Lydia #Christianity #closet

“Welcome to Plathville” on TLC – What Living An Isolated Strict Religious Life May Be Like

For many people, watching this TV show has been fascinating for many reasons. Others have questioned what it may be like to live that kind of life.

I responded to a video on YouTube where the host asked for people who have any kind of insight to comment below. This is what I wrote.

“I’ve been watching these Plathville episodes with a heavy heart and too many times through my own tears. I was born into a religious cult.

Birth control was not allowed so my parents had 10 kids all born in quick succession. I was second oldest and my older sister and I became mini mothers to our younger siblings.

I resented it then as I missed out on so much because I was always doing cooking,cleaning, laundry, caring for a newborn baby, going shopping, etc etc.

I was not allowed any access to tv, computers, libraries, newspapers, radio, “secular music”, magazines. Indeed anything that would open my mind up to “the outside world”.

I had to cover up and dress “modestly” which meant I was covered from my neck downwards minus my hands. Often extreme abuse goes on and I was definitely subjected to physical violence by my “mother” and child sexual abuse by another family member.

This is just to give you a quick glimpse into that kind of world. I would add that obviously this is my own personal experience and not everyone I knew had the same kind of home life.

I managed to escape 6 years ago, in 2015. I lost absolutely everyone in the process. I have 9 siblings and countless nieces and nephews who I haven’t seen since then. I don’t even know what they look like anymore.

My own “family” kidnapped my daughter in order to “save her soul” and made up horrific allegations about me in order to keep her. I had to battle hard in court to overturn that ruling by the judge. That almost made me want to give up on life but I had two older kids who needed me.

I did what Moriah and Micah did for my own sanity

and to give my kids a chance at doing well in life, except that I was mid 30’s and had been in an arranged marriage, and suffered domestic abuse for 17 years. I also had 3 kids at that point.

I was so emotional and proud that these Plath siblings had the strength to leave before they too would have been trapped for decades.

There’s so much dysfunction in their home and it’s incredibly triggering to watch. The way the parents always put on a show to the cameras that they’re perfect parents wanting simply to love their kids is ridiculous.

The fact that we know they can’t have been the best parents because why then would 3 of your own kids cut off contact and one move far away?

They cannot see the pain and conflict they’re putting their kids through by not allowing them to socialise normally with other people and even their own siblings. It’s only going to make them crave that world more.

They also cannot understand how them keeping their kids uneducated, is a form of control. This is so that if they’re able to leave they will not fit into society and do well. They will need to start again and begin proper education.

They failed their kids on almost every level and it infuriates me watching them do this as this is what my parents, and so many others I know, did to us. It wasn’t done in a malicious way. They just felt this was the right way to bring their kids up.

Even through I’ve been out for 6 years I will never be able to get a normal job because of my lack of education and knowledge of the normal world. I also have imposter syndrome where I constantly feel like I don’t belong…. but I don’t belong in my past life either.

I hope they do better because they’ve left at as teenagers so there is hope, although it’s still never going to be easy to explain to people what kind of upbringing you had.

I’m very vocal about my past life as it’s such a secret world that even the authorities have no idea what is going on.

Every time the parents smile and put an act on camera I cringe. However I am so pleased this show has shone a light onto extreme religions, cults and closed communities, because not enough of that kind of family life is ever shown.”

I have posted a couple of really lovely responses which touched me so much….

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