My Thoughts on Plathville – Season 3 episode 1 & 2

TW – Plathville and apparent parental neglect

Just finished listening to the first podcast on Plathville and I appreciate you mentioning that there was another podcaster Kate Casey who interviewed them both.

I found it so insightful and so so sad because there’s always someone who is gonna be hurt whatever they do…

One thing that did jump out at me was that they mentioned that Kim – the mum – doesn’t do any housework and the kids pretty much do everything themselves. I think the phrase they used was “we brought ourselves and our siblings up on our own”.

Then I watched the second episode and this little clip just broke my heart. You can see the mum playing a harp while her daughters are hoovering and washing up and doing all the housework. And Lydia is praying. In the closet. This little clip of 27 seconds summed it up for me.

I know she’s trying to portray herself as a good mother who is totally devoted to her kids. Yet Ethan said that it was his dad who was available to them as kids and she never was. So many things make sense now.

As a survivor of a religious cult I always find these episodes triggering. However when I see how the older children are able to leave and move away from that brainwashed mentality it makes me genuinely happy for them.

Obviously I don’t know what happens with Ethan and Olivia but wow… how sad does Ethan look all the time…. I wonder if it’s depression and or something else going on? Heartbreaking to see such pain and despair in his eyes…

Anyone else understand what I mean or is it just me who sees these things??

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/ep-310-ethan-and-olivia-plath-from-welcome-to-plathville/id1154758766?i=1000500447720

#parentalalienation #family #Plathville #Ethan #cult #religion #escape #neglect #Lydia #Christianity #closet

Matthew West sings Modest is Hottest – My Thoughts

“Modest is Hottest” Isn’t the Lighthearted Song This Christian Thinks It Is.

Matthew West has had a long successful career in Christian music. He’s released several albums, won many awards, and even written chart-topping songs for popular mainstream artists. All that’s to say he has a lot of pull in the Christian music world.

So on Friday, when he released a new song called “Modest is Hottest,” people were paying attention. At first glance, the song appears to be a parody of purity culture. He even referred to it as a “light-hearted take on an age-old struggle.”

West’s message here is clear: If his daughter dresses like Cardi B, her worth will diminish in his eyes no matter what else she ever accomplishes.

But then you hear the lyrics. And you realize you were wrong. Very wrong.

While the song doesn’t directly shame women, it sets the stage for blaming them if they ever get assaulted or raped — things that have happened to women wearing burqas, sweatpants, and all forms of clothing that West would surely deem “modest.”

That song is meant to be encouraging to his (underage) daughters, but it just repeats the same old damaging tropes that blame women (and girls) for the bad behavior of men (and boys). Didn’t we already have this conversation when all those evangelical women spoke out against Purity Culture? Is it really that hard to avert your eyes or treat women as people rather than sex objects?

Instead of singing to your daughters, why don’t you focus on singing to your sons and teaching boys and men how to be respectful and not harass others.

As one person tweeted “Women do not dress (or do anything) for the attention of men.

The idea that your daughters must cover themselves up because they are beautiful is not the compliment you think it is.

How about a song telling boys/men to treat us like humans rather than objects?”

Well said 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

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