Child Abuse and the Likely Abusers… ⚠️

Trigger Warning ⚠️ Child Sexual Abuse Information

Not all of us are aware that when we warn our children not to talk to strangers and not to get into cars of people you don’t know… the statistics show that the person most likely to abuse a child is someone close to them, like a parent, teacher or older relative.

These are the predators we need to protect our children from… as well as the “boogie man down the alleyway”. Remember that women sexually abuse too. Leaving a child with a female doesn’t necessarily mean they’re automatically safe from sexual abuse.

“Any child is at risk of being sexual abused. It’s important to remember that both boys and girls can be sexually abused.

Most children who’ve been sexual abused were abused by someone they know. This could be a family member, a friend or someone who has targeted them – like a teacher or sports coach.”

“If a child reveals abuse
If a child talks to you about sexual abuse it’s important to:

listen carefully to what they’re saying
let them know they’ve done the right thing by telling you
tell them it’s not their fault
say you’ll take them seriously
don’t confront the alleged abuser
explain what you’ll do next
report what the child has told you as soon as possible.”

https://www.nspcc.org.uk/what-is-child-abuse/types-of-abuse/child-sexual-abuse/

#NSPCC #children #abuse #MeToo #survivor #childabuse #help

Logan Dorn – Religious Christian Fanatic – harassing girls on the beach 😳

Subject – Logan Dorn harassing teenage girls on the beach for – shock horror 🙄 – wearing bikinis!

If this dude didn’t want the 9 and 6 year olds boys to see women – actually teenage girls – in bikinis, he shouldn’t have taken them to the beach. Problem solved.

Once again we have a man trying to tell young girls how to dress to suit HIM. Move away man!! It’s not that hard to do.

The condescending attitude towards the group of girls is awful. He’s so patronising and trying to preach to them to explain why they’re wearing bikinis on the beach!!! It’s a freaking beach!!!!

The last 15 seconds of this story is what made me laugh. He thought he could harass these girls and get away with it. Nope! Social media is savage and after the video went viral people went for him to get his name and place of work! And yup! You guessed it!! He’s got fired.

Well done to Mighty Hand Construction in Colorado who have done the right thing by firing a man harassing girls. I wish more companies did this.

I’m still baffled why adult men think that going up to a group of girls and asking them why they’re wearing bikinis is acceptable??? And then talking about their bodies! Dude. Wow.

#mentalhealth #Jesus #atheist #christianity #extremist #church #beach #bikinis #college #friends #lgbtqia #Pride #preach #shh #harassed #men #stopit #construction #girls #beachday

Jack Peterson’s shocking admissions as an INCEL about what he thinks women should not be allowed to do.. 😳😮

Trigger Warning ⚠️ Incel Hate for Women 😮

Oh wow 😭 seriously Jack Peterson this is disgusting. I’m going to assume he’s doing this for attention.

Wanting women to have Human Rights taken away from them shows an insane mind 🙄😡 “woman are lower than men. Women should be submissive to men. Women shouldn’t be allowed to vote. They should stay home. Shouldn’t be allowed in the workplace etc…”

So let me get this straight.

Jack, actively chose to be in a gay relationship and is now blaming women?

No one forced him into a his relationship he chose it he needs to face facts. He really needs help because he is delusional.

Both genders have their issues. Both have said issues because of their gender. If u can’t admit that your so far biased it’s sad.

Be proud of who you are Jack!! And welcome to the LGBTQ 🏳️‍🌈 community 😳

#incels #dangerous #men #women #female #strongwomen #equality #womensaid #bekind #mentalhealth #drphil #hate #lgbt #pride #rainbow #gay #usa #humanrights #JackPeterson #abuse #LGBTQ #strong #femaleempowerment

My Thoughts on Plathville – Season 3 episode 1 & 2

TW – Plathville and apparent parental neglect

Just finished listening to the first podcast on Plathville and I appreciate you mentioning that there was another podcaster Kate Casey who interviewed them both.

I found it so insightful and so so sad because there’s always someone who is gonna be hurt whatever they do…

One thing that did jump out at me was that they mentioned that Kim – the mum – doesn’t do any housework and the kids pretty much do everything themselves. I think the phrase they used was “we brought ourselves and our siblings up on our own”.

Then I watched the second episode and this little clip just broke my heart. You can see the mum playing a harp while her daughters are hoovering and washing up and doing all the housework. And Lydia is praying. In the closet. This little clip of 27 seconds summed it up for me.

I know she’s trying to portray herself as a good mother who is totally devoted to her kids. Yet Ethan said that it was his dad who was available to them as kids and she never was. So many things make sense now.

As a survivor of a religious cult I always find these episodes triggering. However when I see how the older children are able to leave and move away from that brainwashed mentality it makes me genuinely happy for them.

Obviously I don’t know what happens with Ethan and Olivia but wow… how sad does Ethan look all the time…. I wonder if it’s depression and or something else going on? Heartbreaking to see such pain and despair in his eyes…

Anyone else understand what I mean or is it just me who sees these things??

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/ep-310-ethan-and-olivia-plath-from-welcome-to-plathville/id1154758766?i=1000500447720

#parentalalienation #family #Plathville #Ethan #cult #religion #escape #neglect #Lydia #Christianity #closet

Chief Rabbi steps in as rabbinical courts accused of siding with domestic abusers

Having just come across this article I’m enraged. We can see that sadly because the Beth Din is made up of male Rabbis, they seem to only see things through the eyes of the husbands.

A woman who goes to the police for help because her husband is physically, emotionally, sexually or financially abusive shouldn’t be penalised.

Proving coercive control is incredibly difficult and to put another burden on the victim that if she (it’s usually the women but not always) goes to the courts about it she can be left chained to her estranged husband, without a Gett, forever. This is outrageous.

Saying you’re helping agunot (jewish women unable to be free of their husbands as they refuse to divorce their wives) and actually doing it is a different thing. What about the human rights of the victims? We need to stop protecting men who are abusers and begin thinking of how to help the women trapped and chained to their their husbands.

At the root of all of this is the terrible sexism and misogyny that exists in the Beth Din. The Chief Rabbi has said he will intervene and try to resolve this issue. I hope he does. This is unacceptable and has to be sorted out. We can’t have women chained for decades to their husbands. And we can’t allow women to be scared to go for help knowing if she does she won’t get her Gett.

#fyp #survivor #Jewish #bethdin #ChiefRabbi #uk #divorce #coercivecontrol #abuse #police #court #domesticabuse #Gett #aguna

https://www.thejc.com/news/uk/campaigners-warn-that-rabbinical-courts-are-siding-with-domestic-abusers-1.518409?a=IwAR3uX_z4QikOrTDIuk-VIgaUjmBOxhG7i0N_MalM0CP1Yc_uJjZpXgEL728

FGM Needs To Be Stopped 🤬

Reading this made my heart stop for a few moments. How can anyone do this to another human? To physically force your wife in front of 30 people to have her genitals cut is barbaric. Inhumane. People doing this should be jailed. Period.

Just IN: Forced By HUSBAND🤦🏽‍♀️

Kenya: A 30-year-old woman (mother of three) from Murang’a County is nursing serious injuries after she was forced to undergo #FGM by her husband.

She disclosed that she underwent the ordeal on May 9, and that her husband was accompanied by over 30 members of his cult.

They first performed a ritual by slaughtering a goat before subjecting her to the cut.

“One member of the cult, strangled me as others undressed me and started cutting my genital organ with a knife…” She cried.

He also vowed to mutilate their two daughters…

My heart aches to read this. How barbaric can this man and his cult be to force his wife to have FGM done to her?? It makes me so angry that I feel hopeless. I wish there was something I could do to change this…

#endFGM #abused #jail #stopFGM #childmarriage #Kenya #cult #abuse #domesticabuse #abusive #husband

Ultra-Orthodox MK: Women who convert to Judaism through IDF are ‘shiksas’

An ultra-Orthodox lawmaker said women who convert to Judaism through the Israel Defense Forces’ conversion program are considered shiksas, using a pejorative term for non-Jewish women.

https://www.timesofisrael.com/ultra-orthodox-mk-women-who-convert-to-judaism-through-idf-are-shiksas/

Opposition leader Yair Lapid called the statement “ignorant and sad.”

“These wonderful young women that you call shiksas are saving your life,” he tweeted.

#israel #Knesset #jewish #IDF #soldiers #bigotry #BeKind #conversion

Outrageous Comments Made by a Knesset Member About Killing People in “Mixed Marriages”

An Israeli Knesset member has called for the killing of couples involved in mixed marriages during a speech in parliament.

Yitzhak Pindrus is a member of the United Torah Judaism, an ultra-Orthodox party that believes in a homogenous Jewish state and society.

He called for the murder of “people who contribute to miscegenation”, invoking a Biblical story about the murder of a Jewish man and non-Jewish woman while they were making love by lancing a spear through their engaged sexual organs.

#israel #Knesset #racism #bigotry #government #marriage #lgbtq #bekind

Please Don’t Victim Blame 🥺

TW….. Domestic Abuse, Liz and Ed, The Single Life

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I’ve just finished listening to a podcast for the second part of The Single Life, Tell All which airs on Discovery +

I was very moved by what the guys said at the end about Liz and how to support someone you know who may be in the kind of abusive relationship it seems she’s in with Ed.

They made a comment about not blaming or questioning why someone has stayed so long or keeps going back etc. It really touched me and I wanted to share why.

As a survivor of domestic abuse, aka Intimate Partner Violence, with the father of my kids whom I was married to for 17 years, I have these kind of questions asked of me all the time. I never told anyone what had been going on all those years so when it came out and he was arrested I felt like I was made to defend myself.

“Why did you stay so long”
“Why didn’t you tell anyone”
“Why didn’t you leave the first time you felt abused”
“I understand a year or two. But 17??”
“Why, why, why, why…..”

What people who haven’t experienced this personally or seen it close up don’t realise is the grooming, control, manipulation, ostracising you from everyone who cares about you, coercion etc etc that happens gradually over time. And if you are young, I was just 19 and he was older at 27, you don’t necessarily know what red flags are or what the warning signs are.

And once you are aware about what is happening you may have kids, you may have been told “I love you so much, you don’t need to learn to drive. I’ll take you anywhere you need” thereby ensuring you’re trapped if you want to leave quickly or get help.

The abuser may have disabled your phone or locked doors to trap you inside. They may have told you countless times how “you’re lucky I’m with you. No other man would want to be with a fat, ugly disgusting person” etc. You’re made to feel grateful that they’re with you because after all no one else would want to be. Or at least that’s what you’re made to believe.

I always feel hurt and defensive when I’m asked why I didn’t get out earlier and other things like that. I realise that I cannot explain why in a matter of a text or a short conversation. If someone asks then they just don’t get it. And I don’t need to educate everyone. There’s enough information online to educate yourself rather than put the onus onto the victim or survivor.

To me it feels like I’m being asked how stupid can you be that you allowed it to go on for so long…. how much of an idiot can you be not to have left after the first couple of times you were abused… and I know I’m not stupid. I was simply groomed and isolated, had my money taken etc.

Even money I got from doing private lessons would have to be hidden in a drawer away from him. But sadly when I was in hospital for years on and off for months at a time, he found the money I saved to leave him and stole it. He proudly told me about it as I was hooked up to machines in hospital unable to move. That’s how vile these people can be.

So please, please don’t blame the victim and make them justify why they stayed with their abuser for a certain amount of time or why they keep going back. The mental abuse and the feeling of needing to be with them because you’ve been brainwashed to believe you can’t live without them is so difficult to comprehend.

Just be a support. Tell them you’re there when they are ready to leave. Ask what it is that might be keeping them, such as financial issues, and see if you’re able to help. Make sure they know they are not alone and you’re not judging them and they’re done nothing wrong other than to fall for the wrong person. Give them contact information for charities or shelters that can help them when they’re ready.

I hope this helps someone understand more about people they care about. Of course this post is my own experience only but it’s an insight into how it might be for someone you care and worry about.

#DomesticAbuse #abuse #defensive #parents #alienation #kids #Coercion #control #manipulation #support #bekind #compassion #charity #shelter #refuge

Worshipers at synagogue threatened by men screaming anti-Semitic slurs

“No one was injured, and no weapons were displayed, according to the witnesses, but community members were terrified.

“There were kids all over, it was traumatizing,” an unnamed witness said.”

Do you hear the irony? No one was injured and there were no weapons. Kids terrified and traumatised. Remind you of anything at all?

Read the end of the article where it states how many Palestinians have been killed by the Israeli Army in the last couple of weeks or so. 60 babies and children were killed.

I asked a friend how he can still justify people who have done this. His answer was “they were in the wrong place at the wrong time”. It seems being in bed asleep in your own home counts as wrong place wrong time.

The Israeli Government confirmed the bomb had missed the target and hit that building killing dozens of innocent people. And you’re still defending this?

You know what real trauma is? A little girl pulled out of the rubble of a building bombed by the Israelis in which her mother and all her siblings were killed. The only other survivor was her father. She hasn’t said a word since being pulled out of the rubble of the bombed building. Her eyes are wide open and terrified. But not a sound comes out.

Of course it’s not acceptable to harass anyone or to yell antisemitic remarks. But please can we put things into perspective here. Having a car damaged and getting the police to take fingerprints of it to arrest the person who did it. I mean, seriously??

I still cannot get my head round the countless people who I know have a kind heart and so much compassion and yet when it comes to the subject of the Palestinians all this goes away. Someone make it make sense!

#Israel #army #peace #Palestine #vandalism #synagogue #AlAqsa #government #compassion #Antisemitism #bekind #LOSS #children #trauma

https://nypost.com/2021/05/23/synagogue-worshipers-threatned-by-men-yelling-anti-semitic-remarks/