“This happened at as mosque in east London.. East Ham I believe, these little shits thought it would be funny to attack Muslims who were just trying to pray. I blame parents for this.. I see it everyday.
Letting your kids act up and never checking them.. this is what they grow up to become and then when they fail in life later you want to blame everyone else but yourself.
Let one of these idiots come try it at my mosque and see…”
This is absolutely disgusting. Can’t people pray in peace without being harassed and physically attacking innocent people like this??
This is so freaking disrespectful and I hope someone with a shred of decency knows who they are and tells the police. Like wow!! Who raised you???
I don’t think I can cringe any more if I tried!! It’s butt-cheek clenching yikes cringe level!!
Subject – Matchmaking in the Muslim and Ultra Orthodox Jewish communities.
Describing a “class society where classes don’t mix” is just so wrong on so many levels. And saying a daughter of a Rabbi can’t marry the son of a Grocer!! Oh… unless he’s a “good learner and educated in the Bible”.
Even I could do a better job explaining the process, and that’s saying something!!!!
I found it interesting how the Muslim matchmaker said what’s important is not to do with class but where they are in life and if their lives align. And it seems like online dating is more acceptable whereas in the hasidic and haredi communities not everyone is online.
I can’t be the only person who feels lost at this time of year. While Christmas is not about religion anymore, it feels so stressful watching everyone around me get so excited while I’m full of anxiety…
I don’t know how to be the person who likes a day that I had no connection to growing up. I feel like I don’t belong. I don’t belong in the world I grew up in and I don’t belong in this new world either.
I feel so down. I feel confused. I feel lost. I can’t be the only one….
How are YOU feeling about the chaos around you and what do you do – if anything – for the Christmas period? Help!!! Im so full of anxiety 😟
This is Stan. I don’t know who he is but he is definitely someone who has strong opinions about this young man who is of Lebanese Muslim descent.
The way he speaks to Eliyah, originally called Ali Hassan, is absolutely disgusting. He is supposed to be an Orthodox Jew yet feels it’s okay to put this 23 year old down like this.
Mocking someone, calling them a “loser” or that he “needs to take his medication” is awful. To tell someone to shut up and stop talking is vile. If this Stan guy doesn’t want to listen to Eliyah, there’s an off button! Simple!
At 17 we all made mistakes. His one was a bigger one which spiralled. The fact was that he lied. That’s all. I think he’s genuine and I hope someone helps him out… he’s lost everything… his wife, his job, his friends and support system etc.
He has been open and honest about what he did that was wrong and I hope there’s a rabbi who will be able to convert him. My ex husband was a convert and it took over 2 years and that was without lies so it’s not a simple process….
It’s sad to see what’s happened to a young man who just wanted something that he couldn’t have and resorted to lying.
I find it so disturbing that he says he’s got countless serious threats to his life. He’s received very dark death threats and he fears for his life.
I hope his wife is getting the help she undoubtedly needs, and I hope he is also getting help for what he did and what lead him to lie to this extent.
Of course what he did was wrong and he has repeatedly apologised for it all. What does Stan and his ilk want from him?? How many more times can he keep apologising to his wife and family for what he did? And does it give anyone the right to say the things that this Stan guy says?
This is another caller called Judy who is just as bad as Stan, if not worse, as she is dismissive, patronising, puts him down in every possible way. Listening to her makes me feel ashamed to have ever been part of this world.
She doesn’t even let him speak, constantly interrupting him to the point where he becomes frustrated and defensive.
In all honesty it can be summed up as a mess! Aka a Sh-t show!!
Just a few weeks ago he married a woman who he found on the dating site “Met You At Sinai”. It seems strange that he was able to marry a Jewish woman of Syrian descent who spoke both Arabic and Hebrew fluently and no one checked to see who he really was.
Of course he is sad and seems very genuine in his desire to convert despite knowing that the Syrian community don’t accept converts. He wants to convert regardless of whether he is able to be with his estranged wife or not.
For me personally it’s not about religion. It’s about someone who has been dishonest about who he genuinely is and his background knowing that if people knew his name was Ali Hassan Hawila rather than Elijah Hawila, he would not be accepted. And that’s true.
Unfortunately his lying started off as a small lie but spiralled over a period of a number of years and everything about who he was was fake. Of course when you marry someone you should be looking into who they are and it’s sad that his wife’s family didn’t do that.
I found myself feeling compassion for him. However, at the same time I didn’t know what was true and what was another lie. I just don’t know what to believe. And that’s painful for him. No one knows what is true and what is yet more lies.
I genuinely wish him all the best and respect the fact that he went on a public show and told his story. Not many people have the courage to do that. I wonder what his future holds.
My comment was in response to an extremely violent attack that an ex-NFL player did to his partner in front of their baby…. It wasn’t about ME! I was just mentioning my story to give people an understanding as to why I felt the way I do.
And this is why so many victims/survivors don’t speak out! The disgusting comments aimed at me doesn’t shock me as it’s not something new for me personally.
I also find it interesting that the assumption made by many when you use the phrase “Domestic Abuse” is physical violence. The ignorance is astonishing. There are so many other forms of abuse… financial, emotional, psychological, sexual, coercion, isolation, etc.
However, for someone who reads them and is in a vulnerable situation this could really affect them. Please be kind on social media. Words carry weight. And words hurt.
Hiding behind a screen victim blaming is the behaviour of a coward and deeply disturbing. Period.
A letter to parents from a parent. Please take the time to read this and feel free to share. We need to start a conversation about child abuse and the repercussions of what this can do to the victim later on in life.
Tonight I heard something that literally broke my heart. I can’t go into too many details but I’ll give you a basic run through of what I was told.
A young girl of around 17 was being physically abused by her parents. As a strictly religious household (I can’t say which religion), they felt she was doing things that to them was bad.
We are not talking about anything really bad. It was things like getting home 5 mins later than planned. Getting a grade less than expected in school. Not helping enough around the house etc etc.
She was expected to do a huge chunk of the chores and she did what she could. However, For these parents, nothing was ever good enough.
They physically punished her all her life but as she grew up she began resenting them and became more and more distant.
During that time she met a young man around the same age and they began dating. He had no mother figure in his life as she’s a drug addict. It was just him and his father at home. The father wasn’t bothered by his son having a girlfriend so young.
The girl was in a very low place and was so touched that someone was showing her attention. They spent more and more time together until they became an official couple.
As a religious girl, any form of intimacy before marriage is a huge sin. She knew she could never tell her parents about him.
THIS IS THE PART I WANT PARENTS TO READ. PLEASE.
Because of the physical abuse she suffered at home, and knowing that her parents believed they were doing the right thing in disciplining her like that, she felt very much alone. And she grew more and more attached and close to this young man.
Had she been able to speak to her mother or father they would have been able to tell her what to look out for, what is normal, what are red flags, and generally have someone to turn to if things go wrong.
I totally understand the religious aspect but there’s reality too. We cannot, as parents, turn a blind eye to what our children are doing simply because we don’t agree with it. We need to go at their pace or else we end up with children who resort to lying to us and us not being aware of what they’re experiencing.
One day after she was hit by her parents she decided she had had enough. She secretly packed a bag and ran away to her boyfriend’s house. No one knew where she was because she was unable to tell people about him, for fear of reprisals and being judged.
The man and his father were thrilled. They had a young woman there “to do women’s work”. She was trapped. She had to do all the laundry, cooking for all of them, was expected to clean the house, and if she complained she was told “be grateful we opened our home to you”.
One day there was an argument and put the blue the man hit the girl hard. He obviously apologised and said it would never happen again. She believed him. And of course that was just the beginning of 9 months of abuse. He beat her all the time.
She was covered in bruises. And she was mentally falling apart. Her parents tried to track her down and begged her to come home. They promised they would stop abusing her and things would change.
Then she had a breakdown and ended up having to be in a hospital to deal with her mental health.
When she left, she went home. Her parents stuck to their promises and never hit her again. But the damage was done. She was so used to being physically abused that she was spiralling in a cycle of abuse.
Of course there was no way she could tell them about the man so she lied all the time telling them that she was “staying with friends”.
When they were out around people they were the “perfect couple” and everyone thought they were happy. She was good at pretending. After all, hadn’t she been taught how to lie and pretend she was okay when her own parents abused her?
She had NO ONE to talk to. She had no relationship with her parents close enough to be able to tell them what was going on.
At one point there was a party and they went. She drank a lot and passed out. The next day she knew something had happened but couldn’t remember it all. Only small flashes of memory came to her. She still doesn’t know what happened that night. She probably never will.
She did remember that the man’s father arrived at one point and called his son aside and in front of several young women asked him “who do you want to f*ck tonight”? His own girlfriend was right there. Imagine the pain and humiliation she experienced.
If only she had a parent close enough to open up to… after almost a year she’s now finally realised that this was not okay and is classed as intimate partner violence, aka domestic abuse.
She’s tried to cut off contact but all the threats he makes and the fact they have to be in the same place during the week (I can’t elaborate) means that she will keep seeing him.
How different would things have been if she hadn’t been abused? How many people who have been abused get involved with people who end up abusing them as well? If they don’t get the right help and therapy it can continue throughout their lives.
We, as parents, can change things. We can be better people. We can be less judgmental and more understanding. We don’t have to throw away all our beliefs. We just have to meet them where they’re at.
The alternative is this story. A young girl unable to tell anyone her body was covered in bruises and she was scared of her boyfriend. And his father.
Luckily she has found someone to talk to. She’s also got professional help from a therapist. And hopefully with time she will heal from the trauma of her childhood and of this abusive relationship.
She says “if I had a mother I was able to talk to the way I can talk to …. I wouldn’t be in the situation I’m in. I would have been able to discuss with her the things that worried me at the beginning so that I didn’t have to waste almost a year of my life alone with my thoughts, trauma and pain fighting my attachment issues. She would have told me this wasn’t acceptable. It wasn’t normal”.
She cried looking at the photos of her body with the scars of the abuse she suffered…. No one should have to live like this. We all deserve to have our needs met. We all deserve to be cared for and to be able to share our concerns. We all deserve to have felt love from our parents and to love others. We deserve peace. We deserve therapy. We deserve… to be our authentic self without fear of repercussions.
An Israeli Knesset member has called for the killing of couples involved in mixed marriages during a speech in parliament.
Yitzhak Pindrus is a member of the United Torah Judaism, an ultra-Orthodox party that believes in a homogenous Jewish state and society.
He called for the murder of “people who contribute to miscegenation”, invoking a Biblical story about the murder of a Jewish man and non-Jewish woman while they were making love by lancing a spear through their engaged sexual organs.