My Thoughts on Plathville – Season 3 episode 1 & 2

TW – Plathville and apparent parental neglect

Just finished listening to the first podcast on Plathville and I appreciate you mentioning that there was another podcaster Kate Casey who interviewed them both.

I found it so insightful and so so sad because there’s always someone who is gonna be hurt whatever they do…

One thing that did jump out at me was that they mentioned that Kim – the mum – doesn’t do any housework and the kids pretty much do everything themselves. I think the phrase they used was “we brought ourselves and our siblings up on our own”.

Then I watched the second episode and this little clip just broke my heart. You can see the mum playing a harp while her daughters are hoovering and washing up and doing all the housework. And Lydia is praying. In the closet. This little clip of 27 seconds summed it up for me.

I know she’s trying to portray herself as a good mother who is totally devoted to her kids. Yet Ethan said that it was his dad who was available to them as kids and she never was. So many things make sense now.

As a survivor of a religious cult I always find these episodes triggering. However when I see how the older children are able to leave and move away from that brainwashed mentality it makes me genuinely happy for them.

Obviously I don’t know what happens with Ethan and Olivia but wow… how sad does Ethan look all the time…. I wonder if it’s depression and or something else going on? Heartbreaking to see such pain and despair in his eyes…

Anyone else understand what I mean or is it just me who sees these things??

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/ep-310-ethan-and-olivia-plath-from-welcome-to-plathville/id1154758766?i=1000500447720

#parentalalienation #family #Plathville #Ethan #cult #religion #escape #neglect #Lydia #Christianity #closet

LOVE ISLAND PRODUCERS MUST REMOVE FAYE FOR ABUSING TEDDY 😡😏

Faye should not be in Love Island. She should be in therapy.

We literally watched an entire hour of a woman abusing a man. Very triggering to many people.

If Teddy was a white woman in the diary room in this kind of state because a black guy verbally abused her there would be outrage.

Where is the same outrage towards the way Faye is treating Teddy? Or because she is a white woman it’s okay?

Remember the Big Brother days when someone who acted like Faye would be called to the Diary Room and given a warning and then booted out? Why can’t this happen in Love Island too?

You cannot have a #BeKind campaign and then allow a man to get treated like Teddy was tonight. Or does that hashtag only refer to white people?

Faye is abusing Teddy and for her to go on about the men who treated her badly in the past and then to do the exact same thing…. I have no idea why she’s still there. She needs to be removed.

loveisland #uk #faye #teddy #loyalty #itv #ofcom #fyp #foryou #viral #trending #abuse #anxiety #mentalhealth #bekind

ABC The Bachelor, Colton Underwood, Comes out 🏳️‍🌈

Former Bachelor star Colton Underwood speaks his truth and comes out to Robin Roberts: “I’m gay. And I came to terms with that earlier this year and have been processing it… I’m the happiest and healthiest I’ve ever been in my life.”

Colton would “pray the gay away and be straight”. This was mostly because of his strict catholic faith. So happy he’s finally spoken his truth. 🏳️‍🌈

For the whole interview click this link.

https://youtu.be/x5WsydRK30Q

#TheBachelor #ColtonUnderwood #pride #lgbt

“Masks Cause Cancer” Say These Women 🤷🏻‍♀️🙈😂

Pair of anti-maskers in Missouri harass a worker saying “masks cause cancer” and refuse to leave until they’re confronted.

Everyone is entitled to have their own ideas or conspiracy theories. However you cannot push them onto someone like this and when they turn around one woman becomes physical.

To clarify – there’s absolutely no data or proof to back up their idea that “masks cause cancer”.

“Smile for the camera”!!! Love that ♥️

Please click on the link to see the video I’m referring to.

https://www.facebook.com/100063755612494/posts/127373929397794/?vh=e&d=n

#COVID19 #coronavirus #pandemic #lockdown #usa #mask #Facts #facemask #maskup #assault #conspiracy #lies #BeHonest #truth #women

Was She In a Cult??? What Do You Think?

I was watching a show today called Ghosted on MTV and then this happened! It’s aim is to bring two people together to find out why they ghosted the other person.

In this episode I wasn’t quite ready for this. Hearing Bri talk there’s no doubt in my mind that she is in a Cult.

Update: they both ended up talking after the show and Tini was able to understand what was going on and managed to leave. They’ve rekindled their friendship.

#cult #BathHouse #trapped #spiritual #nudist #consent #freedom #friendship #Ghosted

Click on the link below to see the video I am referring to as it’s not letting me upload it on here.

https://www.facebook.com/100063755612494/posts/126595009475686/?vh=e&d=n

“My sons ask if a man has ever hurt me. Not really, I lie”, writes Hadley Freeman

“Aged 24: I am fighting with a boy. He hits me across the face, then cries, and I feel sorry for him. Later, it happens again. I eventually stop seeing him, but for the cheating, not the hitting.”

I don’t think I know of one woman who has never been assaulted or harassed or had a man be inappropriate with her. That’s the sad reality of the after affects of what we all read following the Sarah Everard tragedy.

I could write an article similar to this one. It would be long. But my heart hurts at the thought. So I’m leaving it. For now at least.

Please click on the link below to read the whole article. I did – and couldn’t stop reading till the end.

#children #culture #men #RIP #saraheverard #assault #inappropriate #harassed #endthesilence #abuse #strongwomen #TheGuardian #HadleyFreeman #womensupportingwomen #notallmen

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/mar/27/my-sons-ask-if-a-man-has-ever-hurt-me-not-really-i-lie-hadley-freeman?fbclid=IwAR1WoffFLsouNNV8gsM6SoXk1Dmcw7oUcfRkIlPb8stpiRYiZ9uuhaauT4Q

This Woman Was Prepared to lose Her Best Friend Because She is a Christian and Cannot Accept Him as a Gay Man 💔🏳️‍🌈

Trigger Warning ⚠️ – homophobia and broken friendships.

I was watching a show called Ghosted on MTV and watching this storyline play out I was so shocked I was left speechless.

In a nutshell, Naimah was best friends with Maher who had suddenly ghosted her around 3 years ago. She was desperate to find out what had happened and why he had blocked her out the blue.

Maher had explained to the hosts that he found out that she was homophobic and had got into a really nasty argument with his sister who was gay. She as heartbroken and he immediately blocked his best friend.

A few weeks later his sister had tragically taken her own life…. He then came out as gay as well, and he couldn’t be in contact with someone who had hurt his sister and wouldn’t accept him as a gay man.

This is the conversation they had after all those years and all that pain… and he wanted to explain why he had cut her off. It’s interesting to see how she starts off in tears and looking genuinely sad. As she hears what he says, watch how her expressions change to anger and hostility.

For a strict Christian she was absolutely not going to ever accept her friend. The way she spoke to him broke my heart. It’s intolerable and so painful to watch.

Why would any religion or god want two people to have no friendship because of what it says in the Bible?? No peaceful religion would want this. I cried so much watching this…

#culture #staysafe #lgbtq #gay #pride #friendship #religion #religious #faith #ethnic #Christian #bible #God #scripture #bekind #ghost #MTV #tv

This is the link to the clip I’m referring to.

https://fb.watch/4t2hj4Ib-A/

Ending a Friendship / Relationship that I should Never have gotten into…..

​Sometimes we have to have conversations that are incredibly tough…. 

Those talks that although you know it’s the right thing to do it definitely doesn’t make it easier. 

Last week I ended a close friendship/relationship with someone I’ve known and come to really like over the past few months.  

It was a friendship which should never have happened to begin with. I shouldn’t have allowed it. But I did. 

I can’t go into the ins and outs but it was wrong. 

On many levels. 

And although I didn’t know this initially when he hit on me on the dance floor of the pub I frequent I did find out the situation fairly soon afterwards.

Right there and then I should have been strong. Tough. Stuck to my morals and principles. 

But I was already sucked in. So we kept meeting. Kept hanging out. Having fun. 

The voices in my head never stopped.

I couldn’t silence them.

What I was doing was wrong.

Period.

And I can’t even justify it.

I’m not gonna shift the blame onto him.

I’m an adult.

Responsible for my own actions.

So after a lot of thought and withdrawing into myself and deciding what to do and how to do it so as not to hurt him too much….. 

I finally got the strength to end it.

This was last week.

Yesterday he wanted to meet up.

“To give myself closure” he said.

“To say goodbye properly”….

I was totally thrown.

I never wanted to hear from him again.

But I did.

I didn’t want to meet. 

But I did.

It was so conflicting

And painful

As we had become close friends.

It took all the strength to tell him however hard it is to hang up one final time it’s gonna be a million times harder meeting and physically saying goodbye and walking away…. Getting out of his car one last time…..

And so yes tonight I mourn a special friendship but I’m also really proud of myself for finally having that long talk and being honest. 

I tried not to be hurtful…. He never did anything wrong to me. But this had to stop. No ifs or buts…

When someone is at the other end of the phone begging to meet one final time…. 

When he’s saying he cant do this….. That it will be so so painful….. That he wants to be able to chill and have fun going out places with me….

That’s the technical meaning of Brain Fuck.

I had to be strong.

If I didn’t end it totally….meaning zero contact….there will always be the chance we could go there again…..

And so I said simply “I’m sorry…… I’ve got to walk away…. Please understand me…..  You have been an amazing friend and I’ve loved hanging out with you but should our friendship come to light you will have lost everything….. And I will never be able to forgive myself…. And so however hard this is I’m going……”

With tears in my eyes and a lot of pain I hung up. But I know I’ve done the right thing and that took a hell of a lot of strength to do and stick to….. And that makes me smile.

I feel like a huge burden has been lifted off my shoulders……