“Please stop calling my Haredi son’s marriage an “Arranged Marriage”

Umm 🤔 why not??? Let’s be honest and open and stop sugarcoating what is happening with young people in haredi and hasidic communities.

I have so much to say on this. She’s literally contradicting herself several times saying it’s not an arranged marriage. But then says a matchmaker is involved, they had only a few meetings before getting engaged etc.

I find her attitude towards those who date to get married and have kids in the secular world jarring. We all ask – yes even on dating apps – what they want out of it. If they want or have kids. If they want marriage etc.

She seems to be hugely offended by the term “arranged marriage”. And claims that it’s different in her son’s community as he’s a baal teshuva. Sorry hun but I’m the daughter of both parents who are BT and that’s just not the case.

If there’s a matchmaker involved and they get engaged it’s an arranged marriage.

https://forward.com/opinion/514894/please-stop-calling-my-haredi-sons-marriage-an-arranged-marriage/?fbclid=IwAR32FbqpvDvcICXnFqbfqGm9uuqb_DNg_P6rkCL9XgwjDYI-hO3XJrFS4Ao&fs=e&s=cl

Clearly parents can’t fix you up if they are outside the community. So the shadchanim or someone else does. And yes of course children of BTs are fixed up by parents!

She herself commented that they were ‘fixed up’ together – so how is that not ‘arranged’??? And what pool of young women was felt appropriate for him???

This woman means well but is literally contradicting herself throughout and it’s frustrating to read.

“Kol Kevudah” New Initiative Seeks to Increase Tzniyus (modesty) in Shoe Stores

I don’t know what to say. This makes every part of me cringe. It’s just uncomfortable for so many reasons…. To think that a shoe store owner feels like this is really yuk. Focus on your job not leering at women!

“The poster, written as a poem, states that while the store owner does his best to provide customers with a nice pair of shoes, “but something’s on my mind, I struggle too… I struggle daily with Shmiras Einayim.”

“The view that I have as I crouch on the floor, As I fit your child with one pair of shoes or more. When you cross your legs, the truth I do say, If you knew how it looks you wouldn’t sit that way!”

https://www.theyeshivaworld.com/news/headlines-breaking-stories/2073550/kol-kevudah-new-initiative-seeks-to-increase-tzniyus-in-shoe-stores.html?fbclid=IwAR2EzyYpeffxbDf4aMIqQ3drdPkIV3WLoMBL37W8HFqFMIBAaqiMHfp64HM

An Unorthodox Education – coming soon!

I think this is going to be a real eye opener for so many people who either don’t believe or don’t know what the “education system” is like in ultra orthodox Jewish schools.

It’s 2021 and still there are thousands of children leaving their religious schools, yeshivas, cheder, etc without knowing basic secular knowledge.

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